My Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer on Thanksgiving and we were told he would not live until Christmas. When he told me, we both cried. Well, he was alive for Christmas, the New Year and his 80th Birthday! We were super lucky: we had 105 days to love him. We threw a B-Strong party (B for Bramhall) to celebrate him. It gave him strength to know all his friends were behind him as he faced the unknown that was ahead. At the party we had cards on which we asked everyone to share their memories, funny stories and well wishes. Everyone who came brought food and we asked for humorous quotes to be written down on poster board. This made my Dad laugh. The party was a celebration of life and when you allow everyone to help, it makes everyone feel good. You can feel pretty helpless at times not knowing what you can do. So it is nice to include people and let them help out. It meant a lot to have support during this very difficult time. So although getting the news was devastating, I feel lucky because we got to really show my Dad how much he was loved and appreciated. For his 80th birthday I wrote 80 reasons why I loved him and got to share it with him. There was so much I got to share because we knew he was dying, and for this I am grateful. Remember, as horrible as it is to know, it can also be a gift. The time is now, share your love!
source url The Bramhall Family Scholarship Fund was established in 2014 in memory of my Dad which helps a Bowdoin or Colby graduate go to medical school through the Tufts University School of Medicine Maine Medical Center Program. (Yes that is a mouthful!) My Dad went to Bowdoin, my Mom went to Colby. The scholarship also pays tribute to his father (my grandfather, who was also a Colby grad) who retired head of the OBGYN department at Maine Medical Center.
After my Dad retired he started painting scenes of the Maine coast in pastels. Today I am reproducing his work in a card line which can be found in coastal shops throughout New England. The proceeds go to the scholarship foundation. FMI: https://www.festivefish.net/shop/cards/peter-t-bramhall-art-cards/